Friday, December 18, 2009

just keeping it together...

Super busy the next two days and am trying to keep an even keel.  i focalize tonight's medicine wheel ceremony.  we probably won't get home and in bed until 1 or 2 am.  then back up to decide which music to use for our 6 PM meditation saturday night and get laundry done before meditation.  back home after meditation and in bed around 1 or 2 am again.  then up early to drive to the panhandle so steven and i can visit my grandmother (his great-grandmother).  it's about an 8 hour drive (ugh) but will be fun in my car.  i love driving my car, so maybe it will make the trip a little less weary.  of course, i'm sure steven can keep me entertained the whole way.  he has lots to say on a wide variety of topics so there's always lots to talk about.  i just have to keep him away from too much car talk!  LOL

i am looking forward to the trip and seeing my family.  hate the drive and wish we could stay longer, but things are busy here and i can't afford to be away for too long.

right now i'm in maintenance mode.  i just push ahead so i can do what i've got to get done until i finally break through the other side.  up side is that once i get to the farm on sunday, it will be pure relaxation.  even one day there can be like a week on vacation anywhere else.  i am looking forward to it!

Thursday, December 17, 2009

status


just a quick update.  feeling a little blah.  started feeling a little down yesterday and as the day went on it got heavier.  on the upside, i actually cooked dinner for a change and with steven's help, dinner was eaten and dishes were washed by 8:30 last night.

i think i know what's brought this case of the blues on... the weather really doesn't help.  i need sunshine! 

got news my grandmother had a TIA (precursor to stroke) so steven and i are driving up on Sunday and will drive home on Tuesday.  wish i could go for longer, but i have ceremony friday night and meditation saturday night.  it will be good to see her and time on the farm ALWAYS makes me feel better.

Friday, December 11, 2009

WOW!! Alice In Wonderland trailer!!!


WOW!!!  Check out this preview to Tim Burton's Alice In Wonderland!!  OMG!!  Release date March 5, 2010... and we'll be at the RETREAT!!!  It will probably (hopefully) be at least a couple of weeks before I will be THAT reintegrated into reality!!  I just might be joining Alice down that rabbit hole after spending 10-days in silence!!  LOL

Looks like a movie that will be kickin' on the big screen, so I hope to see it in a theater...maybe even IMAX.  If not, I'll just have to check it out on Steven's HDTV.  If you click on the image to the right, you can see a larger version of the picture.  WOW!!!

CLICK HERE to check it out!!

Post what you think after you watch it!

If you love me.....

If you love me ... or want to understand me better ... please, please go to this web site and read about Bipolar Disorder. The author of the site has done a great job of breaking things down into a simple, easy-to-read format and she explains things quite elegantly.  Bipolar-Lives.com

Thursday, December 10, 2009

100% and Christmas/Holiday cards


I'm feeling like myself again (whatever that is LOL) and am grateful.  I know it's not the new med because it hasn't had time to start really working yet, but am grateful that the cycle is back on the upswing.

So this morning's topic is Christmas/holiday cards.  We've only received a few so far, but have noticed that more and more people are no longer signing their holiday cards.  Now you get either pre-printed names or labels stuck to the inside of the card.

Now, I realize that everyone is busy and if you have a lot of cards you want to send out it's a lot easier and quicker to use labels or pre-printed cards.  Right or wrong, I have always wondered when nothing is handwritten in the card (such as the signature or at least a brief message with pre-printed cards/labels) if the sender really gave any thought to me/us when they sent it or if it's just the obligatory holiday card.

When I send out holiday cards, I always think of the person/people I am sending it to when I fill out the card for them.  I handpick the design based on the individual and even if I write the same thing in every card, I always think of the person when I sign it.

Troy and I have a friend that we have not seen or spoken to in over 10 years, yet every single year she not only sends us a holiday card, but always handwrites a personal message.  Every year when I open her card, I can feel the love and friendship she sealed in the envelope with it before she sends it to us.  I know she put thought into her card and wishes to us; that they are heartfelt.

Maybe it's just me, but I've always been really funny about greeting cards.  I cannot send a card that doesn't express how I truly feel about someone. 

Maybe we all need to slow down and re-evaluate our friendships and the ones we send holiday cards to.  Is it a general wish that is felt the same for all mankind?  If so, then why a personal card?  However, if it's truly heartfelt, then isn't the recipient worthy of at least your signature on the card?

Just my two cents.  What do you think??  There is no right or wrong and I welcome others opinions on this topic.

Have a beautiful day!!  And here's a little something to make you smile... if you can't read the card, just click on it and you'll get a larger image.


Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Today is a 70% day...not bad, but not quite 100% yet


I'm feeling a little better today.  Saw the doctor yesterday and we decided to add an anti-depressant, Lexapor.  Someone I know was put on it who is also taking Lamictal (same as me) and has reported success with it, so I'm hopeful it will be the same for me.  We should know in about 3 weeks since it takes that long for the medication to show any clear results.

Had a dream last night that definitely expresses the anxiety I am feeling.  I dreamed I was at Fashion Square Mall shopping.  I had gone to the bathroom a couple of times while I was there.  Whenever I have my iPhone with me and I go to the bathroom, I usually like to check my mail, stuff like that.  As I was walking through the mall I realized I had left my iPhone in the bathroom.  Since I had been to more than one bathroom, I had no idea which I had left it in.  However, I was in a hurry and needed to get somewhere so I thought I'd just check with the information desk later.  (Not much I can do if someone stole it and didn't turn it in.) 

So I walked out to the parking lot and my car was gone!  Someone had stolen it!  So I went back into the mall to go to the Information Desk and ask them to let me use their phone.  As I'm talking to them I realize, "Oh yeah!  I have Lo-Jack AND OnStar on my car!", so all I have to do is call Lo-Jack and they can locate my car for the police and OnStar can kill the engine.  I reach into my purse to get my wallet which contains the ID card with the LoJack phone number and my vehicle VIN on it.  Guess what was missing?  My wallet!  I had lost it as well!

Needless to say, made me a little nervous to leave the house today.  I know that when I'm in the state of mind I am in right now, I have trouble focusing and keeping it together, so I easily misplace things.

However, I'm fairly certain I know where it all came from - definitely anxiety-induced.  I feel guilty about the iPhone because it's an added expense for us.  I also feel guilty about my car because it really made things tight for us.  Missing wallet?  Definitely, because I feel like there isn't enough money.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

struggling a little bit here


I see my doctor today, so that's a good thing. Still finding I can be just fine one minute, then just as easily flip and become depressed. Feeling a little anxiety and my chest is tight. Maybe he can give me something to help ease me through the holidays. I really do hate the holidays. I've already cut out giving gifts to anyone, but I still struggle with not being able to give. Even though the budget doesn't really change, it almost seems like I feel even more pressure with the budget during the holidays. Maybe just the reminder when I look at my bank balance that I can't do anything for anyone. This year, I'm even struggling just doing for Steven, and that REALLY stresses me out! Not to mention, what he wants is to expensive. *sigh*

Trying to take deep breaths. Right now, just trying to keep from bursting into tears. I hate fighting back the tears. And it's really hard for me to hide how I'm feeling so everyone at work thinks I'm not friendly, when all I'm trying to do is keep it together and not burst into tears.

Doesn't help that this is one of the more stressful times at work and it's not helping how I feel.

Drugs...drugs...give me drugs... Trying to meditate, and that helps, but it's a really struggle to keep the calm and balanced state of mind.

We'll see what the doc says..

Monday, December 7, 2009

Guang Ming Temple

This is the temple Troy and I attend classes at.  Love the accompanying music.

Guang Ming Temple from Guang Ming Temple on Vimeo.

Saturday, December 5, 2009

Dark, damp, & dreary outside - Sunny skies inside

It's wet, dark, dreary, and cold outside.  This is the first Saturday in over three months that we don't have a commitment to do something or go somewhere.  I guess when you are always on the go, you do learn to appreciate those rare moments that are commitment-free!

Right now, I'm cooking a pot of chili.  I only fix my "special" chili, with it's highly addictive SECRET ingredient, when the weather is cold.  The chili is almost ready, then I'm going to grab a bowl and sit in front of the tube for a little while.  Then, well, who knows what I'll do next?!?  There's a meditation package I've had for at least a year that I've wanted to dig into, so maybe that?  Or maybe I can FINALLY finish the Buddhism book I've been reading for the past month so I can start reading another one.

Going to temple tomorrow morning for class, then off to work for a few hours.  Hope you have a wonderful week end.  Remember, it doesn't matter what it looks like outside - all that matters is how you feel INSIDE!

Friday, December 4, 2009

2012 and Tiger Woods

You may wonder, what has 2012 got to do with Tiger Woods?  I'll tell you what.  I'm sick of hearing about both already!!!

What bugs me about 2012 is all the mis-information and fear associated with it.  The Mayan's DID NOT forecast 2012 as the "end of the world".  How in the world did "end of the Mayan calendar" become "end of the world"?    (Anyway, what do you do when the year ends?  You put up a new calendar!)  They didn't forecast anything.  They stated a fact.  Their calendar ends in 2012.  2012 is the beginning of a new era based on Mayan prophecy.  Astrologically, it is when we move from the Era of Aquarius to the Era of Pisces (if I recall correctly).  Perhaps it's the word "prophecy" that we immediately associate with doom.  What they are forecasting is HOPE.  This is the same for the Hopi, Navajo, and many other cultures.  They are forecasting that while these are tumultous times with earth changes, it is also a time when we are realizing that materialism is NOT all that matters.  It is a belief that we will begin to turn inward and return to a time when family was important and we did believe it took a village to raise a child.  I believe that we ARE seeing the sprouting of this now with our increased awareness of our impact on the environment,  taking responsibility for the limited resouces on our planet (and yes, they are limited), and increased compassion.  So, RELAX, 2012 IS NOT the end of the world.

Why not focus on what the true message of 2012 is?  Changes in ourselves.  Turning inward.  Focusing on who we are and what our role is in the world.  The return of balance between the masculine and feminine.  What we are here to do.  Surely it's not to collect material possessions.  I don't believe whomever dies with the most toys wins.

Moving on to Tiger Woods.  A lot bothers me about this.  First, our fascination with celebrity train wrecks.  I don't care if they are famous or role-models or anything else.  They are human beings, first and foremost.  How would YOU like having your mistakes dragged before the public and then being judged by them when people don't know ALL the facts??

Second, when I hear women, say, "Oh, if he cheated on me, I'd leave his ass."  Wow.  That says a lot.  That says, "I love you, but not unconditionally.  You can't make a mistake.  You can't be at fault in any way.  You must always be perfect."  That's one reason why so many marriages fail today.

Third, we may have opinions of what we'd do or what they "should" do; but until you walk that path, you really DON'T know what you WOULD do!

Fourth, we DO NOT know all the FACTS of this relationship.  Therefore, how can any of us comment or make judgement on it???  All we see is this hot looking lady and can't understand why in the world a man would cheat on someone so hot.  If she were unattractive, then some would feel differently.  I can hear people, "well, the girl he was cheating with IS a lot hotter than the one he's married to..." 

Fifth, and this one definitely will upset some people.  When a spouse cheats on the other, there is often fault on BOTH sides.  Very seldom is the one cheated on completely innocent.  I don't mean they have also cheated, but perhaps they are withholding affection?  Come on ladies.  How many times have you been pissed and said, "You ain't gettin none until I'm not angry at you anymore?"  Women are DEFINITELY one's who will withhold the lovin' when they aren't getting what they want.  Men, on the other hand, can be mad at you and make love to you at the same time.  It's the way we're wired.

Most important of all, let's respect them and extend privacy to them even more now than before.  They need it.  Our continued desire and obsession with them is only making it more difficult for them to work out.  Is it because we WANT the drama?  If so, we are wanting drama at the cost of others.  Don't forget.  There are two innocent children also caught up in this drama.  Do you really want to take an active part in contributing to the energy that keeps this spinning out of control?  Or would you rather afford them the privacy to work it out and possibly keep two children from becoming two more victims of a broken home??

So...that's my rant for today.  Please comment and share YOUR thoughts on these subjects!  Carry on....

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Scientists identify mental illness gene


My brother-in-law had this article posted on Facebook.  It's encouraging that they are making progress in identifying the dysfunctional gene.  Hopefully we will see improvements to treatment for mental illnesses and less of the guess work!

(Click on the title above or here to go to the original article.)
An international team of researchers, led by the University of Edinburgh, compared genes of 2,000 psychiatric patients to 2,000 healthy people to pinpoint the 'ABCA13' gene.

They discovered it is partially inactive in patients suffering severe illnesses such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and depression.

The results suggest the gene plays a crucial role in maintaining brain health as scientists found it was faulty more frequently in patients with mental illness than the control group.

Identifying the genes that predispose people to psychiatric illness is considered the most important step in developing new ways to tackle the condition.

Lead researcher Douglas Blackwood, professor of Psychiatric Genetics at the University of Edinburgh, said the discovery would help the development of new drugs to treat mental illness.

He said: ''This is an exciting step forward in our understanding of the underlying causes of some common mental illnesses.

''These risk genes could signpost new directions for treatments.''

Dr Ben Pickard, of the University of Strathclyde, said the team believed ABCA13 influences the way fat molecules are used in the brain.

They are now focused on finding out exactly how that occurs.

Dr Pickard said: ''This study is the first to identify multiple points of DNA damage within a single gene that are linked with psychiatric illness.

''It strongly suggests that this gene may regulate an important part of brain function that fails in individuals diagnosed with these devastating disorders.''

The research results are published in the American Journal of Human Genetics.

being fully present


As you can probably tell if you're reading my posts, I've been feeling better lately.  Maybe the increase in meds has helped.  I think part of my struggle with depression is due to the holidays.  I usually have an extremely hard time coping during the holidays.  Many people do.

I have also been sticking to my schedule of meditating every morning for 10-15 minutes before going to work.  That also seems to be helping to keep me balanced and focused.

One of the things I've come to realize about my pursuit of mindfulness, is that it's a full time job!!  You don't realize just how on auto-pilot we are a lot of the time until you direct your attention and focus to remaining mindful and aware of the moment you are currently experiencing.  For me, I'm fully aware maybe 10% of the time.

A great example is talking on the phone.  How many people actually sit down and focus their attention on nothing but the conversation on the phone?  Many are multi-tasking: driving, reading their mail, picking up around the house, shopping, watching TV, etc.


Here's a challenge for you.  The next time you are on the phone, try sitting still and putting your entire focus on the phone conversation.  If you find yourself becoming impatient or fidgety, examine why you are feeling that way.  Is it because you want to be doing something else?  Is it because you really aren't interested in the conversation?  Is it an obligation call?  Is this person not worthy of your full and complete attention?

When we do not give our complete attention to whatever we are doing and/or try to multi-task, we are not fully present.  Although multi-tasking would lend to the illusion that you are accomplishing a lot, you really aren't accomplishing anything.  Whatever you are doing cannot be done to the best of your ability because it doesn't have your full attention.  You are partially accomplishing.

Un-learning multi-tasking is very challenging.  Not multi-tasking and giving your full attention to the task at hand, is very rewarding.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

BS & t-shirts


I just LOVE bumper stickers and t-shirts with sayings on them.  So many wonderful, inventive, creative things have been expressed via bumper stickers and t-shirts.  Unfortunately, bumper stickers are slowly going the way of "not cool" because they make your car look "junky".  During a visit to Atlanta earlier this year, I noticed very few cars had bumper stickers.  The same for Orlando.  It's a dying way of expressing yourself.  However, not one to worry about what others think, I also like sharing my thoughts with others via bumper stickers and t-shirts.  I put my bumper stickers on magnets, then I can change them out based on my mood without damaging the resale value on my car.  Here are a few I picked up from a catalog I got the other day.  For your enjoyment...
  • Speak your mind even if your voice shakes!  (This one I can personally relate to!)
  • You may say I'm a DREAMER but I'm not the only one
  • Reading is sexy...  (on a nightshirt)
  • Tree Hugging Dirt Worshipper
  • Touch the Earth Gently
  • Oh, no-not another learning experience!
  • Lord, help me to be the person my cat thinks I am
  • Not all who wander are lost
  • Lord, help me be the person my psychiatrist medicates me to be
  • Choose to be optimistic...it feels better!  The Dalai Lama
  • Change how you see, not how you look
  • We are defined not only by what we create, but by what we refuse to destroy.
  • The activist is not the one who says the river is dirty, but the one who cleans it up.
  • Faith is a journey--not a guilt trip
  • People are more violently opposed to fur than leather because it's easier to harass rich women than motorcycle gangs.
  • Don't assume I share your prejudices
  • To be truly radical is to make hope possible rather than despair convincing
  • Everything war can do, peace can do better
  • Good questions outrank easy answers
  • God was my copilot but we crashed in the mountains and I had to eat him
  • Question reality
  • God Bless the Whole World -- No Exceptions
  • What about a maximum wage?
  • Don't believe everything you think
  • It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save our environment
  • Religion is for people afraid of going to hell.  Spirituality is for those who have been there
  • Sorry I missed church.  I've been busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian
  • Don't get even.  Get odd.
  • Remember who you wanted to be
  • It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.  Fredrick Douglas
  • Ask your doctor if medical advice from a commercial is right for you
  • Bipartisanship:  I'll hug your elephant if you'll kiss my ass
  • You don't have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them.  Ray Bradbury
  • Zen Buddhism.  Don't even think about it

Simplified Global Warming

I agree with this guy. Does it really matter who's right and who's wrong? When we break it down to the basics of what happens with action or non-action, if we take steps to minimize our impact on the environment now, what does it truly hurt?

1,088 pages later...the KING LIVES!


Troy and I stood before the display of Stephen King's new book, Under the Dome, at Barnes & Noble.  I had a 50% off coupon in my wallet waiting to be used.  Being that he is one of my favorite authors, I picked up the book and flipped to the inside jacket at the front of the book.  Blank.  Flipped to the inside jacket at the back of the book.  Also blank.  Looked at the back of the book.  Blank.  No where inside or on the outside of the book is there any description or summary of the book.  Being the geeks we are, we pulled out our iPhones and had a competition to see who could find the book plot online.

Once I read that it was a story he originally started in the mid-70s, I was interested.  I'm a fan of his old work - not real crazy about much he has written since The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon.  His last few novels have seemed to return to his roots -- to the fiction I loved best.  When I read Misery, I couldn't help but feel a twinge of guilt as a Constant Reader.  King always refers to his fans as Constant Reader, and like the character in Misery, I resented the exploration he wanted to do with his writing.  Exploration that went outside the box he had written in, and that I had come to love, for the past 20 or so years of his career.

So I approached his new book as I have countless others over the past few years.  An undying optimist, I keep hoping he will produce another book that will grab me "in the old way".  Sometimes he comes close to that which my soul desires, but lately hasn't pulled me all the way in like he used to.  With Under The Dome, he was quite successful.  Once again, I sat, completely transfixed, unable to stop turning the pages.

Many, many years ago, I could connect so strongly with fictional characters that to stop reading felt as if I left their lives in limbo, waiting for me to return so they could continue living.  Characters in a good book come alive for me.  I love them, fear for them, cry with them, and loathe those that are meant to be loathed.  In Under The Dome, King has written a masterpiece with one of the largest character development plots I have ever encountered.  (Hence the 1,088 pages of a story that takes place in less than a one week time frame.)

I think George Lucas and Gene Rodenberry should utter a prayer of gratitude that King's talent and ambition never turned toward the Science Fiction genre.  With Under The Dome, King more than proves that he could have given Lucas or Rodenberry a run for their money in developing worlds and plots with a multitude of characters.  Don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to compare Star Wars or Star Trek to Under The Dome.  But *I* have to give someone credit who can develop and maintain 50+ characters and provide the reader with the ability to become intimate with each character.

There are a couple of parts in the book that I felt were loose ends.  I won't go into those here because I don't want to spoil it for anyone.  No worries though.  The loose ends do not detract from the overall greatness of this book.

A real page-turner that I literally could not put down!  I started reading the book on Thursday evening.  On Friday morning, I finally had to tear myself away so we could get dressed and head to the pow wow in Ocala.  (We didn't get there until 4 o'clock as a result!)  I still read the book as we drove up to the pow wow and probably would have read it on the way home if it hadn't been dark!  Instead I slept on the way home and then stayed up as late as a I could reading once we got home again.

Sunday morning I woke up at 7 AM with a slight touch of diarrhea.  (I hate that word. It has to be one of the hardest words to spell in the entire English language!)  Since I was running to the bathroom every 30 minutes, I decided I'd just lay in bed and read for a while until I felt better.  (Convenient, huh?)  After Troy's fourth or fifth trip to the bedroom to check on me, he realized he wouldn't be seeing me until the book was finished.  I could not tear myself away.  So at 8:30 PM that evening (long after the diarrhea was gone), I finally read the last sentence.

Do I recommend it?  Most certainly!  Suggestion:  it's a $35 hardcover book.  I had a 50% off coupon for Barnes & Noble and thought I was getting a real steal of a deal.  Yesterday I logged into Amazon.com and saw they are selling it for $14.50!!!  (Although, I wonder how much shipping is with a book that heavy!)

If you do read it, let me know your thoughts.  Comments are ALWAYS encouraged!

Friday, November 20, 2009

It's a time of Gratitude...


Thanksgiving is drawing near and now is the time when we all begin to reflect on our many blessings and what we are grateful for.

Xerox is offering online cards you can choose from and enter a personal message.  The cards will be printed and delivered to the Troops.  It's super easy and free to do.  Won't you take a few minutes and send a thank you card to someone in the Armed Forces today?

http://www.letssaythanks.com/

Friday, November 13, 2009

The Longest Day Ever in the Whole Universe of Days


Today I went to lunch with some of my very favorite co-workers and friends.  Those are the best really, the ones you work with and enjoy hanging with too!  So, we went really early today...11:30...to Annie's on Orange here in downtown O-Town.  They have the YUMMIEST chicken stuffed with broccoli and cheese (or I was just extremely hungry)!!  But I digress...or is that digest?

Anyway, for some INSANE reason we went to lunch at 11:30.  Maybe it was a subconscious wish to avoid the company quarterly meeting?  Either way, we went, we feasted, we laughed...A LOT...and we left.  Back at the office by 12:40, even though we walked really, really slow so we had to wait for a train to pass before we could continue our trek back to the office.

NOW....our day is dragging by sooooooo slow.  We have taken a common vow.  NEVER GO TO LUNCH EARLY AGAIN!!!

Who Am I?


Something I have been pondering a little more lately, especially now that I have decided to accept and embrace my bipolar disorder, is...Who Am I?  This is an especially challenging question because it is complicated with the bipolar.  I mean, of course, I know what my basic attributes are, but some of my other ones I wonder if they truly are who I am or if they are just manifestations of my disorder.

For example, I'd like to think I'm basically a happy person.  But when I get uber-happy, is that mania or just that I'm feeling really good?  Or when I get depressed, is that who I really am?  Or maybe I am all of these things and none.

Maybe I should compile a list of what I "know" about myself? 

What about you?  How would YOU answer the question, "Who Am I"?

We Will Never Forget BUT We Will Learn to Forgive!



I avoid the news as much as possible now.  It's filled with so much negativity and most of what I read, the only thing I can do anyway is pray for those that suffer.  Unfortunately, Yahoo! mail insists on keeping me informed by always popping up with their news page when I log into my mail account.  So, I saw the above image this morning with the heading, "9/11 Suspects to be Tried in New York".  With the timing, I can only assume that some who hung this banner may be hanging on to their anger and hatred from this tragic event (as are many other Americans).  It made me start thinking (ouch! LOL) and this is what I thought would make a much better banner...  How about: 

We Will Never Forget
BUT
We Will Learn to Forgive!
 


And we wonder why there is so much hatred, fear, and war in our world??  I agree, we should always remember those that have passed, but unfortunately, too many people cling to the fear, hatred, and anger, too.  It is time to learn to forgive.  We claim to be a Spiritual and Christian nation, but seem to forget  Master Jesus said to forgive.

"For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
-Matthew 6:14-15
 
"You have heard that it was said, 'Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.' But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well." 
-Matthew 5:38-40

Thursday, November 12, 2009

The Human Route


The Human Route

Coming empty-handed, going empty-handed -- that is human.

When you are born, where do you come from?

When you die, where do you go?

Life is like a floating cloud which disappears.

The floating cloud itself originally does not exist.

Life and death, coming and going, are also like that.

But there is one thing which always remains clear.

It is pure and clear, not depending on life and death.

What, then, is the one pure and clear thing?

-- Zen Master Seung Sahn

Symptoms of Inner Peace

Symptoms Of Inner Peace

by Saskia Davis

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences

An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment

A loss of interest in judging other people

A loss of interest in judging self

A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others

A loss of interest in conflict

A loss of ability to worry

Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation

Contented feelings of connectedness with others & nature

Frequent attacks of smiling

An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen

An increased susceptibility to love extended by others and the uncontrollable urge to extend it

Thought for the day: Inner Peace


Inner peace is the key: if you have inner peace, the external problems do not affect your deep sense of peace and tranquility. In that state of mind you can deal with situations with calmness and reason, while keeping your inner happiness. That is very important. Without this inner peace, no matter how comfortable your life is materially, you may still be worried, disturbed or unhappy because of circumstances.
~The Dalai Lama

I can get flustered so easily when events happen, so this is a good sign to me that I do not have inner peace.  That's why my life has been devoted to understanding myself and finding that inner peace.  I am finding that Buddhism (the philosophy) has become an extremely valuable tool in my quest.

Have a Blessed day!

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Happy 11.11.11 Day!


Today is a magical number day!  The date translates as 11.11.11 (you add the 2 and 9 together in the year)

In numerology this translates as:  1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 2 + 0 + 0 + 9 = 15.  Numerology continues adding numbers together until you have a single digit remaining so 1+5 = 6

If you add together 11 + 11 + 11 = 33 

33 is considered a master number as the number 3 is associated with the trinity - God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit.

Adding the 3 + 3 = 6, you still get the single number 6 (same as the method used above).

6, in Vedic Astrology, stands for beauty and love.  Embrace the ones you love and fully enjoy the beauty that is around you today.  Sitting in a drab office?  Look around!  You will find beauty somewhere!!!  You only have to look!  (Of course, we should do this every day, but it's especially important today!)

Also remain mindful of the time of day:  11:11 AM and 11:11 PM.  Since this is a full alignment (and will only happen twice today, once this year) these are powerful times for prayer and meditation!

I already know it's a powerful day for love.  My hubby made lunch for me this morning.  He never, ever does that or asks to.  So believe in the power of love today!!

Have a Loving, Beautiful day!

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Finally! Relief!


Just a quick post that I am finally starting to feel more like myself.  It's amazing, but it's almost like a switch is suddenly thrown and I can feel my mood beginning to lighten.  I feel more like talking, joking around with the guys at work, and finding pleasure again in things that I usually enjoy.

This was a tough one, for sure.  I spoke to the doctor's office on Monday and he approved increasing my medication (Lamictal) from 150 mg to 200 mg.  I don't know if the improvement in my mood is due to the medication increase - or if it's just the natural course of the disorder.  Doesn't matter why.  All I know is that I am grateful that IT IS.

Each time I go through this and can successfully come out the other side of it, I learn something new.  I realize now, and am working to accept, that I do have a serious mental illness.  When I admit to someone that I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, I always follow it with, "But I am a lower-level bipolar.  I don't have it as bad as most do".  Instead of minimizing, I have to learn to accept it and live with it ... peacefully.  Peacefully, is the hard part.

I also realize the importance of a mood journal now also.  I think I have actually been manic for a long time this year and have just finally hit the depressive point.  Extended mania is unusual for me because I'm normally the more depressive type.  I was just riding the wave and thinking, "Hey!  I'm doing GREAT!"  Now I realize that it was hypomania, which is eventually followed by depression.

A mood chart will help me chart my moods each day so I can review it over a period of time to see what my high and low periods are, as well as how quickly I'm cycling.  I've been reviewing mood charts and am trying to develop something that is easy to use.  An iPhone app would really be great because I always have my iPhone with me.  If it's on the computer or written in a journal, then it's not as easy to access and more likely to fail.

I have also realized that I need to be much, much kinder to myself.  If I don't feel like talking to people, then it's okay to say "no, I don't feel like talking".  If I need to lie in bed and cry, then it's okay to lie in bed and cry.  It's okay to do whatever I need to do to take care of myself - regardless of what others think I "should" do.

I've also come to realize the importance of meditation in helping me maintain my balance.  I have successfully incorporated getting up earlier in the morning just so I can be sure I have my 10-minute centering meditation before I start my day.  I also found getting up earlier removes the pressure of being on time to work in the morning.  This also helps.

I realize that those who care about me only wish to help, however misguided they may be.  I also realize that my expectations of those who are in my support system needs to change.  For those that truly want to be a support system for me, they need to understand what I have a lot better than they currently do.  Not just pop in with the, "hang in there", "tomorrow will be better", "this is only temporary" platitudes every now and then.  They have to be a fully integrated part of my life.  I also realize that this is a lot to ask of another person.  Therefore, I do not expect it from anyone any more.  If you are reading this and you want to be a support person, then YOU have to approach me and ask to be that person.  Otherwise, do not be upset if I tell you I don't want to talk to you or if I don't return your phone calls.  We all have to realize our own limitations and what we are willing to offer to another person, without compromising ourselves.

This really came home to me when I spoke to a woman after our Buddhism class on Sunday.  She is dating someone who is bipolar and was talking about how difficult it is as a support person.  It really made me think about my support system, what I expect, and what they expect in return.

The important thing is:  I feel better!!  One of the teachers in our Buddhism class told me, "You need to take a vacation from your mind".  He's right.  I think too much about things.  It's okay to stop thinking and just be -- especially when I'm struggling with my disorder.

I'm learning...to just....be....  No future.  No past.  Just this moment right now....

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

The difference between depression and sadness

1. Depressed Mood
A person may report feeling "sad" or "empty" or may cry frequently. Children and adolescents may exhibit irritability.


2. Decreased Interest or Pleasure
A person may show markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, daily activities.

3. Weight Changes
Significant changes in weight when not attempting to gain or lose (a gain or loss of 5% or more in a month) may be indicative of depression. In children, this may also present as a failure to make expected weight gains.

4. Sleep Disturbances
Insomnia or sleeping too much may be a symptom of depression.

5. Psychomotor Agitation or Retardation
The person may be observed to be either agitated and restless or physically slowed down in their movements.

6. Fatigue
Deep fatigue or a loss of energy is a symptom of depression.

7. Feelings of Worthlessness or Guilt
A depressed person may feel that they have no value or they may feel inappropriately guilty about things they have no control over.

8. "Brain Fog"
A depressed person may have a diminished ability to think, concentrate or make decisions.

9. Thoughts of Death
A depressed person may have recurring thoughts of death, especially thoughts of suicide, with or without a specific plan.

Although depression is often thought of a being an extreme state of sadness, there is a vast difference between clinical depression and sadness. Sadness is a part of being human, a natural reaction to painful circumstances. All of us will experience sadness at some point in our lives. Depression, however, is a physical illness with many more symptoms than an unhappy mood. The person with clinical depression finds that there is not always a logical reason for his dark feelings. Exhortations from well-meaning friends and family for him to "snap out of it" provide only frustration for he can no more "snap out of it" than the diabetic can will his pancreas to produce more insulin. Sadness is a transient feeling that passes as a person comes to term with his troubles. Depression can linger for weeks, months or even years. The sad person feels bad, but continues to cope with living. A person with clinical depression may feel overwhelmed and hopeless.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Healing Prayer at Bedtime


Jesus, through the power of the Holy Spirit, go back into my memory as I sleep.  Every hurt that has ever been done to me - heal that hurt.  Every hurt that I have ever caused to another person - heal that hurt.  All of the relationships that have been damaged in my whole life that I am not aware of - heal those relationships. But Lord, if there is anything that I need to do - if I need to go to a person because he is still suffering from my hand - bring to my awareness that person.  I choose to forgive and I ask to be forgiven. Remove whatever bitterness that may be in my heart, Lord, and fill the empty spaces with your love.  Thank you, Jesus.  Amen.

-- prayer from Catholic Church in St Augustine, Florida, original source unknown

Thursday, October 29, 2009

perfect!

She says it better than I have...

http://kansassunflower.blogspot.com/2006/07/i-hate-being-bipolar-not-necessarily.html

feeling very lost


I try so hard...but lately I feel like even that isn't enough.  I am doubting myself - doubting what good I am doing - doubting everything.  I'm doubting if I even really know who I am anymore.  I thought I did, but now I'm not so sure.

How can I go from being so confident, so sure about where I'm going and the path I'm following and then when I'm faced with a major challenge, all my confidence and everything I've been reading and studying is just completely blown away?  If I can't apply the things I've been studying when I'm challenged, then am I just a "fair-weather" person?  I think I'm pretty strong, but is that only when things are going well?   When I'm challenged with something that breaks my heart, that I feel as if I've done nothing but fuck up since the beginning and there is no way to fix it, why can't I apply all the things I read and *think* I understand to my heart?  Why does it only work in my head?  Why can't I get out of my heart and my emotions?

It seems like every single relationship I have had that is important to me, the people that I truly do love, I have done nothing but fuck it up.  You may be my friend now, but give me time.  I just seem to have this knack for it.  Troy is the only person who has taken my abuse for 24 years and not walked out on me.  I don't know why, but I do know that if it were not for him, I would have killed myself a long time ago.

He really is, all that keeps me here right now.  I'm tired of hurting.  I'm tired of hurting others.  I'm just plain tired.  The only true relief I see is in death.  Oh, and don't panic, that is *if* anyone actually reads this.  I'm not planning to do anything drastic.  Since I don't really believe anyone is reading this blog (except Lorena, Goddess Bless Her) then this post is more for me to express myself than a warning message for anyone else.

Monday, October 26, 2009

it is way too early...

...to be feeling THIS unBuddha like!!!  Time to breathe....

Sunday, October 25, 2009

GREAT NEWS!!!


I have been accepted for the Vipassana Retreat in February!!!  I got the email last night notifying me that I have been accepted.  I AM SOOOOOO HAPPY!!!!!!

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Birth of Compassion brings Death of Enemy

From Thich Nhat Hanh in Taming the Tiger Within, Meditations on Transforming Difficult Emotions.
"When you begin to see the suffering in the other person, compassion is born, and you no longer consider that person as your enemy.  You can love your enemy.  The moment you realize that your so-called enemy suffers, and you want to help him stop suffering, he ceases to be your enemy."

Thursday, October 22, 2009

URGENT PRAYER REQUEST!

I'm asking each of you to please send out a prayer for baby Parker and his parents. He is 9 months old and having serious health issues due to an inability to keep food in his stomach. The doctors are not sure what is causing this and he will probably be admitted to the hospital today. He is the only child of parents who waited a very long time for him to come to them.

In deepest gratitude



Friday, October 16, 2009

in the Light of Love ..

in the light of love ...
we are whole ...
in the light of love ... 
we are home ...
in the light of love ...
we heal and sing ...
Thy Will be done ...
in the light of love ... 
Om shree dhanvantre namaha
"Om and Salutations to the Celestial Healer"  A mantra for physical healing or for wherever healing is needed...  Close your eyes... listen .. and may you know Peace ... Namaste

i aspire....

...to do this one day... (the drumming and the dancing!)

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Canon named after Kwan Yin?


Interesting tid-bit about the company, Canon.  When discussing Kwan Yin, Gary Gach states in The Complete Idiot's Guide to Buddhism, "Canon, Japanese maker of cameras, printers, and photcopiers, is named after her (Kannon, in Japanese)."

Interesting, huh?

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

a personal pet peeve - email lists


While I was responsible for the Spiral Circle calendar, it was necessary to publish my email address so people could contact me for scheduling.  One of the things I have found to be truly annoying is that, as a result, some (not all) "assumed" I wanted to be added to their mailing list and sent a notficiation every time they have an event.  Trust me, I am quite savvy with the computer and if I want to know what you are doing, I am more than capable of asking you to add me to your distribution list.

I am looking forward to a lot less traffic in my email now.  Hopefully, it will be more from friends and family and less from people trying to promote their own events.  I have missed more than one personal email that was important to me because it was buried in everyone elses announcements of their latest class, workshop, or other event.

I guess what really bothers me is the impersonal aspect of it.  These are usually people I do not know very well and they are promoting events that either (1) I do not see them as someone I want to "learn" from or (2) it's an area that I am personally not interested in exploring at this time.  Many would assume that because I did the calendar I was interested in learning everything metaphysical -- or that I would help promote their event to everyone I know.  Not true.

So, in the spirit of enlightening others, I'd like to share suggested general email guidelines:
  1. If someone doesn't personally give you their email address and ask you to send them info, don't send them info.  It's okay to send an email asking to add them to your address list, but be respectful if they don't respond or reply with a no.
  2. When sending a mass email to your address list, BLIND CARBON COPY (that's the BCC in most email programs) everyone.  This protects people from having their email address stolen and abused.  It also prevents someone getting caught up in a firestorm when someone doesn't like your email and they Reply to All to tell you about it.
  3. If you are the recipient of an email in which someone did not BCC everyone, PLEASE do NOT click "Reply to All".  That's great if you found that email offensive - but it truly does not impress me, an innocent bystander - that you found it offensive.  I may agree with you, but am strong enough in my own convictions that I do not feel the need to shout it to everyone else.  Know me, know my beliefs.
  4. DO NOT share your address book with others or swap address lists in the hopes of building your list.  That is such a violation of trust, I don't even know where to begin.
I assure you that if you automatically add me to your email list, and especially if you are nasty to me when I ask you to remove me, that is all the evidence I need that you are not in the right place to teach me, or anyone I know.

what is beyond this lifetime?


I just finished reading, "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Brian Weiss.  If you haven't read it, it is his personal experience as a psychiatrist with a patient he used hypnotic regression to help treat her anxiety issues.  What he did not expect was regressing her into past life times.  Personally, I believe that if there is a life after this one, then reincarnation is a real possibility.  But this post is not about reincarnation; it's that the book has gotten me to thinking about my personal "near death" experience.  So, I decided to share it with my faithful reader or two...

In January 2009, I had an extremely simple, standard, everyday outpatient surgery.  I have had a few outpatient surgeries and never had any complications.  I have no fear of "going under the knife".  However, the experience I had after this surgery completely blew my mind and sent me reeling.

Lying in the operating room as they prepared to put me under, I sent a prayer to guide the doctors and the nurses during the procedure.  As soon as I had finished my prayer, I felt the immediate presence of my grandmother, grandfather, and father.  All of them have passed over into Spirit.  A peace came over me as I quickly slipped from conscious to unconscious. 

My return to consciousness was beautiful and frightening at the same time.  When I began to wake I found myself in an all white "room".  There were no walls, floor, or ceiling, but everywhere was all white.  As I "stood" there, I saw a group of very tall beings before me.  We were finishing a discussion when I felt myself being pulled away from them, as if I were being "sucked" into a vaccuum, and next was aware of an excruciating pain in my chest and feeling as if I couldn't swallow and was choking to death.

Although my experience was very quick and very brief, I have absolutely no doubts that I was in the presence of great, beautiful beings.  My surgery, as I mentioned earlier, was a very routine procedure that involved a female part of my body.  Why in the world would I have this excruciating pain in my chest?  I spent two hours in recovery before my oxygen levels and the pain had subsided enough to be moved to post-recovery.

When I saw my doctor a week later, I asked him what happened.  He wouldn't give me any details other than to tell me that I needed to file a complaint with the hospital so they would do an investigation.  He had never seen the anthesiologist before and even made the comment that he "has never been afraid to have anyone put him under before".  I walked away stunned and with the impression that perhaps I came close to dying during the surgery.

Two weeks later I had an epiphany so strong that it almost brought me to my knees.  I was stunned and speechless.  If you've ever seen the movie, "The Matrix", you will remember the scenes where when they needed specific information (such as how to fly a helicopter) it was "downloaded" into their brain and within minutes they knew how to fly a helicopter.  My epiphany was just like that.  It was instantenous "knowing".  I then understood what had happened to me.

It was a pre-arranged exit point for me.  For whatever reason, I had "planned" this event so that if I wanted to leave this life, I could.  What almost brought me to my knees though, was the reason I chose to stay.  In that very moment, I felt this overwhelming Divine Love that is beyond description.  It is beyond our human capacity to full understand.  I remembered saying to "them", "I cannot leave Troy" and upon saying it feeling that beautiful, pure love fill my soul...my essence...my very being.

As I re-read what I have written so far, I realize that I began this post with, "...if there is a life after this one, then reincarnation is a real possibility."  Let me explain the if.  Until we die, we really don't know for sure.  We can believe our experiences (such as mine), we can believe what we intuit, or feel.  But until we die, we really do not know for sure.

All I do know is that whatever I experienced that day was unlike anything I have ever remembered experiencing before.  It was powerful.  I cannot forget those beings I left behind as I awoke.  They had no faces and no real form, yet I know they "stood" before me.  I do know that they were a representation of everything beautiful, powerful, loving, and hopeful. 

I also know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, I had a choice that day and I chose to remain. 

I'll have to talk to my Mom about the time when I was around 5 and had pneumonia.  If I remember correctly, she said I almost died then.  I wonder if I ever talked about that experience..or if it really happened.  I wonder if it could have been another pre-arranged point.

So for me, there is no doubt that there is something beyond this lifetime.  I do not fear death for I know it is not the end.

expectations


Those who live without expectations shall never be disappointed.  I'm sure I heard this somewhere before, but it has given me a great deal to think about when it came to me again on Sunday.  When one first looks at this statement, they might think, "Oh! That is so depressing!  We must have something to look forward to!"  That's where the disappointment begins.  WHY must we have something to look forward to?  Isn't the cause of most of our personal anguish because we expect a certain outcome in everything?

We expect our jobs to always be there.  When the economy tanks and we lose our jobs, we suffer. 

We expect our husband/wife/children to always love us.  When they don't, we are either bitter and angry -- or filled with self-doubts and pain.

We expect others to treat us with respect.  Each one of us has a different definition of what respect is.  Am I disrespecting you when what you think is a show of respect is different from what I think is a show of respect?  Who is right?

We expect to never get sick or have health problems.  On the surface, you may read this and say, "Well, that's silly!  I'd never expect that!"  But then how many of us moan and groan when we get sick and talk about how much we hate it?!?  If you didn't expect to always be healthy, then being sick would just be another element of our health. 

We expect others to take responsibility for their actions.  Yet, how many of us are so good and pure that we always take responsibility for our actions?  Example:  A cashier at a store is rude to you, so you snap back at them.  Instead of showing them compassion, we return the negativity.  "But it's not MY fault," you say, "After all, THEY were rude to me first!"  You chose to react negatively.  Therefore, it's no ones fault but your own!

We expect others to drive a certain way.  When someone cuts you off in traffic, do you get angry and call them an idiot or worse?  Has it ever occured to you that they honestly didn't see you?  Or maybe they are late picking up their child from day care and will be charged money they don't have if they don't get there on time.  Maybe their boss kept them late at work and they have no one else to turn to.

Our lives are filled with expectations of others.  Yet, if we can show some compassion, perhaps we can exceed the expectations of another?  Perhaps we can help someone who is suffering.

A little game I like to play that I have found quite effective (especially in traffic and with rude people) is that I imagine a story for them.  Perhaps she just found out her husband is sleeping with her best friend.  Maybe he just found out that his mother has been diagnosed with cancer.  When I can imagine such a scenario for this person that has pushed my magic angry button, it is much, much easier to feel compassion and disable that little button.

Try it and see if it works for you.  Remember:  you are only seeing a very, very small part of each person's life.  No matter how well you think you know someone, there are still things you may not know or understand. 

I'm a perpetual optimist.  I believe that each one of us is, at the core, the same.  We all want to be loved.  We all want to live without fear.  We all want our families to be healthy and prosperous.  I believe each and every one of us is doing the very best we can with what we have.

I believe that it is only in ignorance that people may be offensive or hurtful.  I believe that if they truly understood the pain they cause another, they would not cause that pain.  What do most serial killers have in common?  They can't feel emotions.  If they did, they wouldn't kill.  Whose fault is that??

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

okay! i did it!

For a few months now I have been struggling with all the things I have committed to.  In addition to the volunteer work I do, I also work a full-time job during the day.  A few years ago I volunteered to coordinate and maintain the event calendar for Spiral Circle.  It has been a wonderful three years and I have enjoyed being able to provide a service to everyone, teachers and customers.  I also worked as a volunteer on Friday evenings.

When I first started doing these things, I was just "waking up" from my spiritual slumber.  Over the past few years, I have grown and learned so very much.  I have learned enough to realize that I have so very much more to learn.

In addition to the calendar, working Friday nights at the store and my full time job during the day, I also facilitate, or co-facilitate, five other groups.  For at least six months I have seriously struggled with staying on top of everything I have committed to.  I have also struggled with "just what do I give up?" 

It is very difficult for me to walk away from a commitment I have made, especially when I realize that I do it well and can make a difference.  But when you reach a point of overload, just how much of a difference are you REALLY making?

So, after many months of struggling with just what to give up, the most logical choice was the calendar and working Friday nights.  The calendar had become quite a time-consuming task.  I know teachers and potential teachers were becoming frustrated with me because they couldn't reach me or didn't get as quick a response as they desired.  Understandable.  I was also becoming frustrated with me. 

Although I am truly sad to give up this service to Spiral Circle and customers, I can feel some of the pressure removed from my shoulders and can breath a little more easily.  I didn't realize just HOW heavy a burden it had become until the prospect of giving it up became a reality with the decision to move ahead with relinquishing it.

The lesson:  just because you committed to it three years ago, does not mean it is meant to be forever.  We must ALL remember to go with the flow -- and yet take good care of ourselves in the process.

super nervous

As most who know me, know... I tend to overcommit myself.  A LOT.

People around me have tried to tell me this for over a year now, but being the Capricorn I am, I just kept trying to work harder and more efficiently.  I think I've finally maxed out the Capricorn and am seeing what everyone else has seen for a long time. (I think that ramming-your-head-against-a-mountain-thing is another Capricorn trait I have inherited.)

It's hard though.  When you believe you are helping others, it's hard for me to say "no" and walk away.  But I also realize that we cannot help others if we do not help ourselves first.

Wish me luck.  I'll post later about how it went.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

still alive


Just a quick post to let everyone know (or at least the one or two that might actually read this blog) that I'm still alive and kicking.  Have had a lot going on and am finally getting the opportunity to catch my breath.

There are changes a-comin'.

Troy and I have been attending the Buddhism classes at the Buddhist temple off Hoffner Road.  We are enjoying it very much and the discussion in class, and at home, is always so invigorating!!

Will write more later.....

Thursday, September 24, 2009

why put off today what can be done tomorrow?


Why do we procrastinate?  I've read and heard various "experts" talk about why we procrastinate.  Fear.  Sloth.  (I love that word.  It just plain sounds lazy, doesn't it?)

Do you procrastinate?  Do you know why you put things off?  I'm still trying to understand why I do it.  I'm really a go-getter kind of person.  Once I've identified what needs to be done, I just get it done.  But every now and again, I hit that snag where I just can't seem to bring myself to focus on the task at hand.  Usually, that's okay and I squeak by without a problem.  But when you have a couple of them pile up on you it can get kinda dicey.  Overall though, I think I'm managing fairly well. 

Right now (as in, right now as I am typing this) I am actively procrastinating.  This one has me stumped, I must admit.  I should be cutting up yarn and collecting the things I need for tomorrow nights ceremony.  I also need to finish reviewing the information related to this ceremony.  It is tomorrow night.  I have to work tomorrow.  I already know I have a busy morning ahead of me with little time for anything extra.  Although I am leaving work early, it won't be early enough to do everything that needs to be done, as well as get to the store and get set up before start of ceremony.

So why am I procrastinating?  Why am I sitting here typing this right now instead of going out to the garage, getting the yarn and scissors and cutting? 

Maybe I'm tired.  It's been a very busy, very long month for us.  We've had multiple things going on every week this month. Do not misunderstand.  I am not complaining or looking for pity.  I am absolutely thrilled that we are given so many different opportunities to be in service to others.  It is equally amazing that they are all things that my partner shares with me, both in participation and enthusiasm.

We are approaching our "recharging" time.  Even if it just means hanging around the house, it is a nice time spent together with no one expecting us anywhere at any time.

skull with it's lyric appendage leaning on

a night table which should have exact temperature of a cardinal bird nest

That is the title of this painting by Salvador Dali.  I found the title of the painting humorous because it sounds like something my brother or I would say.  When we were younger we would speak to each other with this strange accent and made up words that, to an outsider, would appear we were conversing in some foreign language.  Neither one of us had a clue what we were saying.  We just had fun faking it.

My sister and I, on the other hand, well, we tend to find our humor in the mundane everyday.  For example, the road sign "BEAR LEFT" will never be the same for me.  We even came up with this really wacky road song.  Something like "Stop! Bear left! Caution! Yield!  Slippery When Wet!"

But what this blog is really about is the Salvador Dali museum in St Petersburg, FL.  We finally made it there and I got to see some of his paintings.  WOW!  I always enjoyed all the optical illusion paintings he is so well known for.  But I remain stunned by the depth and breadth of his artistic talent.  I still cannot wrap my mind around how someone can get a vision in their mind, transfer that to canvas that is 14 feet high and still maintain the desired dimensions!

Another thing I admired about his art are the many hidden images within the painting.  You can view the same painting from three different positions and see images in each position that cannot be seen in the others.  In one painting there is what appears to be three stone archways.  However, when you step back a few feet and look at the picture, you can see that the archways actually form three different faces.


Dali was also known for the "perverse" in his art.  He had a strong attraction to the psychology of Freud and his fascination with sexuality is clearly reflected in his paintings.  One of my personal favorites is Profanation of the Host.   It is the first painting that completely blew my mind and began my true appreciation for his talent.  I stood a few feet back from the painting trying to identify some of the many different images within it.  Some are obvious, while others are not quite so obvious.  The bottom left corner of the painting is dark and difficult to see the detail unless you get very close to the painting.  Standing back from the painting it just appears to be a sexually explicit orgy scene.  As I was standing there taking in the painting, a couple came up next to me and began talking to one another about how sick he was and the sexual imagery.  While secretly wishing they would be quiet so I could continue to savor the painting, I realized that something just wasn't connecting right in my mind. 

Have you ever seen that email going around in which there is a sentence and the letters in each word are all jumbled up or letters are missing, but you can usually still read the sentence?  It's called "matrixing" in which our minds fill-in-the-blanks for us.  (Thanks to Ghost Hunters for that little 411.  LOL)  Our brain will scan for similiar images until it finds an appropriate fit, producing you with the "correct" image.  (Amazing, actually, if you think about it.  Your brain can process that quickly when you glance at a word and within seconds it has scanned every word you've ever seen and returns the word in a way you can comprehend.)

Anyway, this is what I was feeling with this painting.  I could make out the image but something ... just ...wasn't ... right.  So I got closer.  That's when I realized all the women in the painting had a penis!  Even the hairy man/woman-beast-thing had a human penis!  I almost shouted "EUREEKA!!" right there in the museum.  What so impressed me was his ability to take color, shading, light and form to provide an illusion that appears to be one thing, but upon close inspection is revealed as something else.  It's akin to hiding something in plain sight.


There were other paintings that were equally as compelling.  Here is one of Troy's favorites and probably my second most favorite painting.  This painting is called The Font.  It's another painting with so much meaning and detail that even after staring at it for 15 minutes, I felt I had only just barely begun to see all that it contained.

If you ever have the opportunity, vist the Dali museum.  It's $17 for adults; however, you can go to their web site and print out a coupon for $2 off.  A little pricey, IMHO, but still worth it.  We intend to go back again.  There is so much in there to contemplate that I believe your brain just goes into overload and shuts down.  You can no longer appreciate everything you are seeing with the same attention to detail as you could when you first started with fresh eyes and fresh mind.